Falling In Love With A Best Friend
Ever fall in love with your own best friend?? Some people think it's not a good thing to fall in love with someone who already know you so well and it's not healthy for the relationship. For me, I guess it's hard call, but lately I've been thinking about the fact that life is too short to worry about such things, you just have to do what you feel is right, or what you feel is best, and go for it. Sometimes what's right and what's best just aren't the same, and that's what makes life complicated.
Friendship is the foundation of real love. It is totally normal to develop sort of relationship with a friend. Some people are scared of losing a friendship if the relationship ends, but for me, think that depends on who you are as a person. Are you selfish, and if things end will you be mean, or jealous? Or are you a true friend and if things end will you continue to share yourself with that person as just a friend?
I've felt something for my best friend for about two years before I told him. He didn't feel the same way though, but we carried on being good mates anyway; of course. If really you are best friends, then something like this won't come in this way; you should be able to deal with it and move on if it all goes sour.
Yes, it can be hard to sometimes not to have extra feelings for a close friend. But personally, I've preferred to just enjoy and keep the friendship than to have it deepen into something more than could put the friendship at risk. I don't know, I guess for me in most cases it's been that I'd rather be with the person more than to have something with them and maybe not be close to them anymore.
A best friend means he knows everything about you, your life, your problems, your weaknesses etc. And there are almost no secrets about you! If you fall in love with him, there one thing that's for certain, no surprises between you. You're gonna get sick of each others and soon break up that relationships, so it's best to keep away from the best friend!
When we are best friends, just be his best friend and forgot about love. But at the very first occasion, if he'll fall in love, it will then potentially to break down even the friendship.
So anyone here dating your best friend?
JuJu's Advice in
Falling in Love with a Best Friend:
1. Know Yourself Well
Being in love may be many things, but it's definitely not a fool's play. It does sometimes fades with time. Know your feeling well, by analyzing your thoughts, emotions and actions towards your best friend.
2. Find Out
You may have all the love in the world for this person. But what about love in return? Flirting tips and tricks are the best way of finding this out. If your best friend responds to your flirtations, then it is sure a sign of interest. And in whatever little ways is concerned about you, then falling in love with your best friend is the next best thing ever happened to you.
3. Understanding Needs
Falling in love with your best friend is lot more easier than being in love with your best friend. It is important to understand the difference. We often take our best friends for granted in lot of ways. Between the best of friends, lot of things go unsaid and unnoticed, forgiveness is easy amongst best friends and the bond is way stronger than any other relationships. However, you need to view each other with a slight difference. Romantic needs, such as physical intimacy, attention and romance will be overwhelming. There has to be clear communication and responsibility towards each other.
At the end of this all, what matters is, what makes you happy. Even if your best friend, does not feel the same, be honest and convey your feelings to your friend. Sometimes, a person's feelings can change, after knowing the situation in its full truth. As I conclude, I would like to say, I know you can't help falling in love with your best friend, since that's the person, you've always known the best.
Ever fall in love with your own best friend?? Some people think it's not a good thing to fall in love with someone who already know you so well and it's not healthy for the relationship. For me, I guess it's hard call, but lately I've been thinking about the fact that life is too short to worry about such things, you just have to do what you feel is right, or what you feel is best, and go for it. Sometimes what's right and what's best just aren't the same, and that's what makes life complicated.
Friendship is the foundation of real love. It is totally normal to develop sort of relationship with a friend. Some people are scared of losing a friendship if the relationship ends, but for me, think that depends on who you are as a person. Are you selfish, and if things end will you be mean, or jealous? Or are you a true friend and if things end will you continue to share yourself with that person as just a friend?
I've felt something for my best friend for about two years before I told him. He didn't feel the same way though, but we carried on being good mates anyway; of course. If really you are best friends, then something like this won't come in this way; you should be able to deal with it and move on if it all goes sour.
Yes, it can be hard to sometimes not to have extra feelings for a close friend. But personally, I've preferred to just enjoy and keep the friendship than to have it deepen into something more than could put the friendship at risk. I don't know, I guess for me in most cases it's been that I'd rather be with the person more than to have something with them and maybe not be close to them anymore.
A best friend means he knows everything about you, your life, your problems, your weaknesses etc. And there are almost no secrets about you! If you fall in love with him, there one thing that's for certain, no surprises between you. You're gonna get sick of each others and soon break up that relationships, so it's best to keep away from the best friend!
When we are best friends, just be his best friend and forgot about love. But at the very first occasion, if he'll fall in love, it will then potentially to break down even the friendship.
So anyone here dating your best friend?
JuJu's Advice in
Falling in Love with a Best Friend:
1. Know Yourself Well
Being in love may be many things, but it's definitely not a fool's play. It does sometimes fades with time. Know your feeling well, by analyzing your thoughts, emotions and actions towards your best friend.
2. Find Out
You may have all the love in the world for this person. But what about love in return? Flirting tips and tricks are the best way of finding this out. If your best friend responds to your flirtations, then it is sure a sign of interest. And in whatever little ways is concerned about you, then falling in love with your best friend is the next best thing ever happened to you.
3. Understanding Needs
Falling in love with your best friend is lot more easier than being in love with your best friend. It is important to understand the difference. We often take our best friends for granted in lot of ways. Between the best of friends, lot of things go unsaid and unnoticed, forgiveness is easy amongst best friends and the bond is way stronger than any other relationships. However, you need to view each other with a slight difference. Romantic needs, such as physical intimacy, attention and romance will be overwhelming. There has to be clear communication and responsibility towards each other.
At the end of this all, what matters is, what makes you happy. Even if your best friend, does not feel the same, be honest and convey your feelings to your friend. Sometimes, a person's feelings can change, after knowing the situation in its full truth. As I conclude, I would like to say, I know you can't help falling in love with your best friend, since that's the person, you've always known the best.
Hypocrisy
Hypocrisy simply means pretending to have beliefs, opinions, virtues, feelings, qualities, or standards that one does not actually have. Hypocrisy involves deceptions of others and is thus a kind of lie.
As for me, I met many people involves in my lives. I may somehow at first perceived them as someone I do trust. But when things turn out to be the other side of the stories, it may just made me to become someone I don't even know where I'm heading to. Life seems to be such a mess.
People I have encountered before do have their own story lines, full of happenings, not to mention lies and stories made up. I've met someone who is really good at telling stories to others, though I've known him for not that long, but stories that I heard from people which revealed comes out from its mouth made me even annoyed. In front of me, he acted like he's such an angel, good person and friend to be with, but somehow and somewhere I may not know, he may be spreading stories too at the same time. If you guys were to encountered this kind of person, what would you do? For me, I just ignored them and make them as if they're not there any longer.
Day by day stories are expanding. But I hope someday he/she will realize that what he/she is doing is just not right. You may have broke someone's heart instead. The heartbroken person will for return, hated you as much, even worse, than you hate them before.
So people, be cautious of what you are doing. Not many think you are that good enough. Just remember to keep that in mind, whatever you may do, just be yourself, never be a hypocrites. At least for me, I wasn't shame to say that I'm a gay for example, not like someone I knew. So people, never lies, be just and truthful. It pays, believe me.
JuJu Says: Stop Lying, Cut Stories, Be Honest,
Avoid Hypocrites
Gays
Definition of Gay
The term gay was originally used to refer to feelings of being "carefree", "happy", or "bright and showy".
The term's use as a reference to homosexuality may date as early as the late 19th century, but its use gradually increased in the 20th century. In modern English, gay has come to be used as an adjective, and occasionally as anoun, referring to the people, practices, and culture associated with homosexuality. By the end of the 20th century, the word gay was recommended by major style guides to describe people attracted to members of the same sex. At about the same time, a new, pejorative use became prevalent in some parts of the world. In the Anglosphere, this connotation, among younger speakers, has a derisive meaning equivalent to rubbish or stupid (as in "That's so gay."). In this use the word does not mean "homosexual", so it can be used, for example, to refer to an inanimate object or abstract concept of which one disapproves. When used in this way, the extent to which it still retains connotations of homosexuality has been debated.
How to be Gay
There is no one way to be gay! Being gay does not define who you are- it is merely a part of you. If you think you are "not gay enough" or think you are "too gay" then read this quick guide on how to be gay!
Difficulty: Hard
Time Required: Possibly Years!
Here's How:
1. Take time to explore yourself. Spend quality time learning who you are and what you like. Remember, there is no one way to be gay. You can be whoever you are. Once you know yourself completely you gain confidence in yourself and in every other aspect of your life.
JuJu's Perspectives: I always take time to review myself of who I really am. It is pretty hard to accept who you really are at first, but when time ticks, you then realize it is you who decide who you wanted to be.
2. Remove any stereotypes you have about being gay. The media often group gay men into one category. There are stereotypes associated with how we look, dress, talk and act with little recognition of our differences and individual personalities. These stereotypes can get ingrained in your head, making it difficult to be yourself. Once you ignore how you are "supposed to be" and start being who you really are, you will find your own place as a gay man.
JuJu's Perspectives: It is undoubtedly hard to accept someone who is not considered normal, in this sense, from sexuality preferences. But I have to recognize of my unique personalities and endure everything comes in my way.
3. Ignore peer pressure from those around you. Peer pressure can be the toughest thing to overcome. You don't have to be a carbon copy of your friends or a cute boy at the college. Trust me, the right friends and the right man will appreciate you differences.
JuJu's Perspectives: Friends can be somehow rather annoying when comes to such topics. They will then turn to make stories the other way round, but for me, when they do such thing, I will surely avoid. It does make me felt lonely at some point. I appreciate friends, but when friends can't accept me of who I am, then begone.
4. There is no such thing as "not being gay enough" or being "too gay". If anyone tells you otherwise they are being dramatic.
JuJu's Perspective: Life is rather full of dramas, people can talk about you at times, but you yourself need to recognize of your own personalities. Don't get caught into stupid perceptions, rather be cautious of who you are.
5. Open yourself to your own sexuality. There are degrees of sexuality. And yes, there are such things as real bisexuals!
JuJu's Perspectives: There are heterosexuals, homosexuals, and bisexuals. Heteros attracts to different sex, Homos admires same sex, while bis does both. It depends on an individual how they perceive things and who they wanted to be. You can either be gay, lesbians, or bisex, the decision is all in your hand, you decide your own path, the path you may follow for the rest of your life. Be open minded and try to recognize your own specialties.
JuJu Says: Just Be Yourself!
